20 questions to ask before marriage
It is easier to talk about these now than after the wedding. You do not need to agree on everything; you need to know where you each stand.
- What's the one thing the wedding can't do without?
- What worries you most about the wedding, and what are you most curious about?
- Where in the budget do we cut back, and where don't we?
- Who do we trust with the wedding music?
- How should the morning of our wedding day begin?
- Is there anything between our families that makes you tense?
- What's the first thing you want to do after the wedding?
- Which wedding moment are you looking forward to most?
- Whose expectations are hardest for you to hear?
- Who are you most excited to see at the wedding?
- What do you remember most from the day we got engaged?
- What would you like to say to me on that day?
- How do you want to look in our wedding photos?
- What have we spent the most time on while planning?
- Do our families' wishes ever clash with your own?
- What's the first thing we should buy for our home together?
- Who will stand beside you at the wedding, and why?
- What have we learned most during our engagement?
- What should our wedding invitation say?
- Which part of the planning would you leave to me?
How to use these
- One question is enough. Pick one and talk about the answer instead of reading the list.
- Both of you answer. It is not an interview, so answer the same question yourself.
- Try writing first. Writing before you share keeps you honest and stops one answer shaping the other.
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