25 deep questions for couples
Deep questions are not a survey. Choose one, listen to the answer and ask one more. None of them has a right answer; the point is to see how the other person thinks.
- Have you discovered something new about yourself lately?
- What's the hardest thing for you to say to me?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- Honestly, where do you see the two of us in five years?
- What does a good life look like to you?
- Do I know what makes you feel safest?
- What have you changed your mind about in recent years?
- What would you most like to change in your life?
- What brings you the most peace?
- Is there something about me you still don't understand?
- Looking back, which decision are you proud of?
- If you told me one of your fears, which one would it be?
- What would you want to tell yourself ten years from now?
- Do you ever feel lonely, even when I'm right there with you?
- What helps you after an argument?
- What are you trying hardest to prove about yourself?
- What do people most often misunderstand about you?
- What do you think is hard for us, even if we don't talk about it?
- If you had a free year, what would you learn and where would you go?
- What makes forgiving hard for you?
- What do you think is our greatest strength?
- Which habit from your family would you like to let go of?
- What achievement would mean the most to you?
- Where are you most unfair to yourself?
- What does growing as a person mean to you?
How to use these
- One question is enough. Pick one and talk about the answer instead of reading the list.
- Both of you answer. It is not an interview, so answer the same question yourself.
- Try writing first. Writing before you share keeps you honest and stops one answer shaping the other.
Keep the conversation going
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