20 questions for married couples
After years together, most conversations are about logistics. These bring you back to each other for a few minutes.
- If we had a kid-free evening, where would we go?
- Which chore would you most like to hand off this week?
- Have we been taking good enough care of each other lately?
- What helps you most during the morning rush?
- What should we change in our routine this week?
- What do you miss from before the kids?
- If you had an evening to yourself, what would you do?
- Which chore wears you out the most?
- What do you think comes between us the most?
- Does our dinner routine work for you?
- If we set aside an hour just for us, what would we do?
- When do we forget to thank each other?
- If we both got a weekday off, what would we do?
- How do you notice when I'm tired?
- Which decisions about the kids are hardest for us?
- Which corner of our home feels the most peaceful to you?
- What could you hand over to me this week?
- What does being a good parent mean to you?
- If we got away for a weekend, where would we go?
- What should change about our sleep routine?
How to use these
- One question is enough. Pick one and talk about the answer instead of reading the list.
- Both of you answer. It is not an interview, so answer the same question yourself.
- Try writing first. Writing before you share keeps you honest and stops one answer shaping the other.
Keep the conversation going
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